"No, gracefully. Learning to say 'no' with confidence."
By Nubia Santos, Ph.D, MS, M.Ed, LMHC, CST
Psychotherapist Nubia Santos, MS, MEd, LMHC, CST, offers you transformative principles that will help you understand the negative effects of people pleasing. Within these pages, you’ll learn to
identify the connection between people pleasing—or “sociotropy”—and low self-esteem
break maladaptive habits that involve pleasing others
get control of the impulse to be a subjective pleaser and instead become the objective creator of your own reality
When you say yes but really mean no, you reject your own and infringe on others’ autonomy. Simply put, you’re trying to control something that’s not yours to control.
Drawing from general, developmental, and behavioral psychology, Santos offers real-world examples and reflective journal prompts to help you realign and enforce your personal boundaries.
You can change your relational style—if you let your yes be yes and your no be no.